[featured-image link=”null” link_single=”inherit” single_newwindow=”false”]123rf.com[/featured-image] My original post on this topic concluded with these lines: Both living in truth and living in falsehood bring suffering.
In my next post, I’ll talk about why the suffering that truth brings is better. Have you ever had a terrible, miserable, horrible, awful experience that, when it’s over, you look back on it and say, “That was beyond horrible– but I wouldn’t trade it for any
image courtesy of 123rf.com My work with individuals — students, parishioners, and clients — is built squarely on the critical role of truth and truth-telling. Below are some of my core beliefs about truth, and these core beliefs determine how I approach the truth in my work with people. I think more people (especially, but not only, religious people) need to be aware of these principles and observe them carefully. 1. Whenever possible, truth should never be forced on anyone.
Image courtesy of TW Collins, under Creative Commons. From a recent Facebook post: I want to be ruthlessly honest in my intellectual, spiritual, and political life and in my writings. I want to serve the truth and only the truth, not caring at all what a single person thinks otherwise. I’m not out to “defend” an ideology — just to learn and speak what is true. This even applies — especially applies — to religion. If you need me to defend your ideology because you’ve already m
Public Domain Chapter 4 – The Roles of Fear and Mythology Fear is the number one reason why people do not live truthfully. Fear keeps people locked up in themselves, and isolated from one another. Fear is the soil where hatred grows, both of self and of others. If you could get 10,000 people into a stadium who are not living well and ask them why, the vast majority would give you an answer that would have fear at its source. Fear paralyzes us. Another major reason people do n
Image courtesy of admitchell08, licensed under Creative Commons Nothing is as difficult, or as necessary, as letting go. At this moment you are burdened by things from your past — damaging words, destructive arguments, hurtful parents and other role models, painful situations. These things build and build in your life, starting in childhood. You put them on the back burner so you can pay attention to other things, but that back burner is getting pretty crowded lately. How muc
Image courtesy of Joel Bez, under Creative Commons I’m going to say something a lot of people will be uncomfortable with, but it needs to be said for the only reason anything ever needs to be said — because it’s true. I’m speaking here to religious people, Christians in particular. You, not God, and not the Bible, are the standard of right and wrong in your life. It begins with you. I know. Sounds sacrilegious, doesn’t it? As a pastor, I often hear comments like these: “I jus
Most couples are naive about how challenging and sometimes difficult marriage will turn out to be. This may sound cruel but studies show that it is important to burst some of these naive marriage bubbles in order to help ensure a happy marriage. Good premarital counseling, if it does nothing else well, must succeed at this. That is why I spend time with couples teaching them about some popular marriage myths. Here are ten of them: Naive marriage idea #1: Our romantic love wil
Look at others and their truth. Do you like a part of their truth? Then put it in your world and make it part of your truth. Don’t like their truth? Say to yourself, “It’s okay for them but I want something different.”
The point here is to live YOUR life and YOUR truth the way you want to so that you wake up excited and ready for each moment of every day.
There is no right and wrong here. YOUR truth is just as real as someone else’s truth. We are all unique to what we d
G.K. Chesterton, in his book “Heretics” says we are like people standing under a street lamp who begin to demand, each for his own reason, that the lamp be torn down. A monk in the crowd suggests that before destruction commences, there should first be a discussion about the value and purpose of light. But no discussion ensues. The people simply rip the lamp from the pavement. Upon doing so, they congratulate themselves smugly. Then they realize they cannot see. They are
We are at liberty to be real, or to be unreal. We may be true or false, the choice is ours. We may wear now one mask and now another, and never, if we so desire, appear with our own true face. But we cannot make these choices with impunity. Causes have effects, and if we lie to ourselves and to others, then we cannot expect to find truth and reality whenever we happen to want them. If we have chosen the way of falsity we must not be surprised that truth eludes us when we
I’m kind of stuck in limbo, between the guy side of me that hates TV shows like What Not To Wear, and the counselor/theologian side that finds them irresistible. For here, played out on TV for all, are stories of transformation. In 40 minutes, a 40 year old woman who still dresses like a 12 year old girl will find her true self. But not until she stands in front of the 360 degree mirror and faces the truth. There is a way forward, and hosts Clinton and Stacy always know how